Meet first.Look later.
On friendz, photos start blurred. They only sharpen if you both want them to.
Three seconds.
We look at one photo for three seconds and write off an entire person.
We flipped the order.
The community decides who meets whom.
Two people are proposed as a candidate pair, and other users decide. Each vote carries the weight of the voter’s trust score. No chat opens before the threshold fills.
Next comes the blind chat.
candidate pair
coffee · jazz · running
6/6
community threshold
threshold met
- 01×1.8
- 02×1.2
- 03×2.0
- 04×0.9
- 05×1.4
- 06×1.6
Illustration of the flow. Weights are sample values.
under the hood — the score
Where does that 76% come from?
Three measures build the score: whether you are looking for the same kind of relationship, which interests you share, and whether your lifestyle fits what the other person prefers. All three are read in both directions, and the weaker direction carries more weight. One-sided chemistry does not make a pair.
- Intentsame relationship in mind · 52%
- Interestshared interests, rarer ones weigh more · 33%
- Lifestylehow far you meet each other’s preferences · 14%
- Distancenot in the score, same city ranks higher
- Verificationnot in the score, a separate filter
No secret formula. The three weights are the real ones in the product, the percentage is illustrative. Community votes stay out of the score too; they decide which pair gets a chat at all.
The chat has no deadline. Silence does.
There is no countdown in a blind chat. Every message you send brings it back to full life. It closes only if both of you go fourteen days without writing a word, and then it frees the slot for a new match. Two days before that, you both get a warning. Profile photos stay closed the whole time.
14 days
mutual silence allowance
20 messages
curtain threshold · each of you
Hidden
So who gets first-message rights here?
You
I’ll take them. Coffee or tea?
Hidden
Tough one. Coffee at sunrise, tea at midnight.
You
Correct answer. Last book you read?
Hidden
Halfway through a Kafka. You?
At ten messages each, the bio and lifestyle open. At twenty, the curtain decision comes to you both.
Illustrative conversation. The durations and thresholds are the real ones.
It opens only if you both say yes.
If only one of you does, you both simply see that the chat has ended — who said what is never recorded anywhere.
curtain opened
Deniz · 27
so that is what your smile looks like
Safety is written into the mechanism.
Everything below runs in the product today.
32pixels
The blur cannot be undone.
On upload, a photo is first collapsed to 32 pixels and then scaled back up to serving size. Downscaling deletes the detail; the enlarged image has nothing left to recover. A blur filter applied at full resolution would spread the information around instead of destroying it.
These are the steps of the resolve animation on this page. In the app the curtain opens in one go; the steps are here to show how the image was made.
- 01Selfie verification
- The verified badge is only granted after a person on the team approves a live selfie.
- 02Invisible decisions
- A no in the curtain decision never travels in the API response. Both sides get the same neutral notice that the chat ended; who decided is never visible.
- 03Human moderation
- Reported content enters the moderation queue, safety categories are moved to the front of it, and every decision is written to an audit log.
- 04One-tap blocking
- Block and report sit one tap away in the chat screen menu.
- 05Consent on record
- Your permissions are stored with a timestamp. You can withdraw them whenever you want.
Your friends know you better.
Invite someone you trust and let them vet your candidate pairs. Your friend starts the introduction; you still have the final say before a chat opens.
Global Passport is a Premium feature. With it on, matchmakers in other cities can see you too; the worldwide "Everywhere" mode is limited to the yearly plan.
CanIllustrative. Not real user data.
Your turn.
You sign up with a phone number. Completing your profile takes a few steps, and your photos pass moderation before they go live.